I have been tutoring and a professional writer of books for over 18 years. I have run across an impressing number of people who could not tell I was autistic. I am considered high functioning but still struggle with some of the basic life skills that all autistics do. However, it is not apparent.
In my 18 years as a tutor, I have taught teachers how to teach autistics and I have tutored them after school. There is a lot of knowledge needed, beyond just the basic communication we use with each other as an everyday form of "good communication."
Autistic individuals, unless they have been through years of therapy, cannot read emotions, tones of voice, gestures, facial expressions, the implied and many other "messages" in which we send that together create the overall. With it, autistic individuals take everything literally. They tend to think jokes are others laughing at them and teasing them as a result of this. They also tend to be more violent out of the frustration of not able to communicate with the world around them. The inability to communicate affects both sides. The other person will not until they read and follow directions in my book, the message the autistic individual intends and believes they communicated. At the same time, the autistic will not understand the person with whom they are trying to communicate. This causes frustration that they cannot communicate to you, on top of not being able to communicate the fact they are frustrated, which leads to violence.
It is not uncommon for autistic individuals to be diagnosed with mental illnesses, on top and/or before being found to be autistic. This has to do with the frustration and what is associated, such as yelling and violent behavior. There is a lot to know to be able to understand autistic individuals, as well as identify if that may be, or confirm, that is what the case is. In my book Dealing with Autism, I give you a list of symptoms of autism to help determine, though not replace a professional, if this may be the case with there person in your life.
Based on the assumption that it is the case, I give a long list of steps to go about to both you be able to communicate better in a way they understand and to teach them to communicate in the way the every day people do. I wrote the steps in great details and based them on the American culture at the time. If may be useful in other cultures, which if you are within, then I advise you to alter it in certain ways, minimal, to be fit to your culture's way of going about the same mission. However, some cultures do not believe in some steps I gave, which if you decide to skip, the mission of improving the communication skills of the autistic person is less likely to happen, or not improve to the degree which most do. In Dealing with Autism, I also have "Part 2" that is for the autistic person to read that educates them on the way the world around perceives them, common implied messages' meanings, and other areas that are in the ways they will be able to understand.
Get your copy of Dealing with Autism today, and follow all directions, as well as having the autistic person read Part 2, to begin improving your relationship and their ability to communicate, and function in the world around them. It is vital you get your copy, and a copy for all members of the support team as the steps are towards a mission that requires the whole family, friends and other support system members to be involved in order to be successful. Get a copy for the whole family and all friends to begin success, and not just the reading of a book, and start working together going at the same pace as each other over a long period of time to begin improvements. I could almost guarantee you that your relationship with the person with autism, and their relationships with others in and out of the support system over a number of years using the program I have designed. The longer the support system works together, and does what I advise, the more improvements you will see, and the better they will be qualified to be able to work a job that involves people.
Most do not understand that autism's main handicap is communication and that it is far more disabling than the lack of basic life skills. Mom can help cook, and with a shower, but she cannot be at school, work or other places where he or she deals with people all the time, even in nonsocial situations that are just a part of life, like at the bank, or school. Even if a family has to cook for and help with showers for the rest of their life, then unless the person wants to be a cook, this would not stop them from being as likely to land and hold a job. Get a copy for each person in the whole family/friends support group now and begin helping them learn to communicate. Unless they are dead, it is not too late. It is as simply ask clicking here and entering the number of members of the support group that will help, then press buy.
To help with your mission, and be able to ask questions, each member of the support system needs to join www.BooksandMoreByJenniferAWhitaker.com/forum as a member and send us the questions each has through the entire process. Questions will come, you may not know what to do, as each person is different so there is no "one size fits all" program that will work perfectly for everyone. When you see those times you think what I advise does not work, or something I do not mention how to handle arises, send us your questions and allow us to provide further assistance in the mission. You will be able to see others' questions and answers, as well as communicate with other support systems of people who are doing the same sharing a mission with you where you can get advice from them, as well as share your experience. Open our forum in a new link by right-clicking here.
If your loved one with autism can use assistance in their academics or other skill development, visit our site at Books and More to discuss tutoring services which can be accommodated, including made available online to help them avoid a social situation in public until their communication skills are ready for it. We may be reached at 346-800-1912 by text or call.
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